“What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction.”—Chuck Palahniuk, Choke (via undeadlife)
“You know how boys complain about being “friendzoned”? Well we experience this totally legit thing called being fuckzoned. It’s when boys want to have sex with you but they never seem all that interested in getting to know you”—Unknown (via ckgarden)
acosmist - One who believes that nothing exists paralian - A person who lives near the sea aureate - Pertaining to the fancy or flowery words used by poets dwale - To wander about deliriously sabaism - The worship of stars dysphoria - An unwell feeling aubade - A love song which is sung at dawn eumoirous - Happiness due to being honest and wholesome mimp - To speak in a prissy manner, usually with pursed lips
“It’s okay to change your yes to a no. Yes’s aren’t permanent. They’re something we choose again and again, each and every day. Something we have the right to recall and reconsider as soon as saying yes no longer feels conducive to our wellbeing and happiness. It doesn’t matter whether you said yes to a job, a date, a relationship, sex, a favor to a friend, a social endeavor, or a vow of silence — you don’t ever have to commit to something that forces you to compromise who you are and what feels right; especially if it’s something you agreed to under pressure, intimidation, or force. Changing your yes to a no might make people angry. It might hurt their feelings, cause them to see you as a flake, and result in lost connections. But if saying no means staying true to yourself, honoring your feelings, and making self-care a priority, it’s worth it. You are worth it. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.”—Daniell Koepke (via anditslove)
I’ve been meaning to say this for a while so here goes: I love Millennials.
Allow me to blah blah blah: I think they’re widely misunderstood and the current generation (mine and older) treat them with a great amount of disregard and misunderstanding. That should stop.
Eventually, Millennials will be in charge of running everything and the negative treatment by the adults of today toward their own kind, is likely to come to a screeching halt. Gen Y/X reality check: You’re real nice to someone when they’re in control of the general cash flow and future of the society you live in, huh? Millennials will inherit this world, which we are currently granted the ability to run simply by default of being older (even if many of us “in control” contribute nothing other than being alive and breathing). Eventually, it will be their turn.
Scoff if you must, but from what I have witnessed — on social channels and just shutting up and observing Millennials when they are around me — is a generation that occupies more obvious, extreme ends of the social spectrum. To clarify: There exists extremely empathetic, emotional, thoughtful, deep, artistic, impassioned, independent, DIY, initiative type of young person…and then there’s the angry trolls who bully through the putrid, hateful racist/sexist/homophobic comments that they leave on the shared works and contributions of their online peers.
**The origin for the latter of the two groups being, I believe, due to an early on over-exposure to the worst kind of adults. Such exposure proves to be radiation poisoning to the soul (I know). What can I say except that hurt people hurt people.**
Here, try this: Take a moment to quietly observe Millennials online for a while. Seek them out where they spend most of their time. Depending on where you are, this may differ for each person. However, I will note that I appreciate the more intimate friendships Millennials continue to cultivate through private channels such as Skype/text/Snapchat; we adults tend to lose that touch as we grow older yadda yadda thiswealreadyknow. Frankly, it’s as though there just exists a more exaggerated version of what goes on with our own generation [Gen Y/X and Boomers] right now, with current workforce either feeling held back by the limitations of or hiding and making ends meet in the ever shrinking “middle class” (you can run but you can’t hide for long, everyone). LIke I said, it’s just more glaringly obvious and exaggerated — people who get boners over the idea of one day living in a world where there is ultimately a battle between good and evil, you may want to take note.
Again, in the interest of shit you already know: It’s like as the world spins that we’ll see more young minds that decide to skip college altogether and instead move straight into pursuing what it is their heart desires and more young adults who, as kids, taught themselves to write code using free/inexpensive means. Perhaps, one day, learning foreign language will be replaced entirely with simply learning how to code.
Like it or not, Millennials are our future. Treat them with respect. Otherwise, social security in America is drying up faster than fossil fuels and one day you will be old and no longer able to hustle/grind/kill it like you do today — Silicon Valley, I’m looking at you — and you just may find yourself in need their help. Because if your a big talking entrepreneur who boasts about wanting to “change the world” then this is the fastest way to do it.
tl;dr I love Millennials, they’re awesome. Leave them alone and stop telling them how awful or “screwed” they all are. Stop acting like a dick to them and encourage them instead.
PS. I’m not sharing anything new or particularly ground breaking. I don’t normally write long posts because it feels too much like being someone who likes listening to the sound of their own voice. It can feel like stroking off in a public place. i just wanted to go a bit more in depth as to why I feel the way I do about Millennials while simultaneously calling out the problematic sentiments toward them held by my own peer group.
"He’ll never *get* you. He’s not even remotely in your league, emotionally speaking. He’s a boy, parading around as a man. Don’t beat yourself up over what’s happened, over things you did to protect your heart, because he’s a man-child. A bro. A tool. Love yourself and just do your thing. Keep doing you. Carry on."